Yeah, part of me would be happy if simply by starting the conversation now, something changes in 5, 10, 15 years. Part of me also thinks that if she goes to school there, I may find there are other like-minded parents, and that if we start talking with each other, this may help moment go.
A thought that crossed my mind sometime after the meeting was a question of dominance. Choosing a school is important, because it will provide a tremendous influence on her, whatever we pick. But out of the school/child pair, which do I think will be the dominant one? Do I think that school will dominate Gwen, or Gwen dominate school? And when I put it this way, I'm pretty sure it's the latter: Our choice of school will direct and influence her, but it's still HER that's being influenced, and I'm pretty sure that she as person cannot be overridden by any external force.
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Date: 2016-02-12 01:30 pm (UTC)A thought that crossed my mind sometime after the meeting was a question of dominance. Choosing a school is important, because it will provide a tremendous influence on her, whatever we pick. But out of the school/child pair, which do I think will be the dominant one? Do I think that school will dominate Gwen, or Gwen dominate school? And when I put it this way, I'm pretty sure it's the latter: Our choice of school will direct and influence her, but it's still HER that's being influenced, and I'm pretty sure that she as person cannot be overridden by any external force.